From Part I Chapter 4 Socialization of Female Oppression
By Shane Stewart
As humans we tend to think of ourselves as individuals in possession of free will, building our lives around standards and morals we have “freely chosen” to live by. We see ourselves as intelligent beings, capable of evaluating and deciding what is best for us. We know our likes and dislikes, and we have certainly been taught the difference between right and wrong. We think we are independently minded people, finding a sense of individual importance in the idea that: “No other person on earth is quite like me.” Any suggestion that we could possibly be a duplicate of someone else, programmed with their basic ideas and values and set into motion like a robot is dismissed as ludicrous, “That’s just stuff of science fiction.” However, much of what we once believed could only exist in science fiction has, more often than not, become science fact.
Regardless of what we believe about human free will, the truth is, society does not allow for individuality. The entire concept of human free will is, in and of itself, a construct of fantasy and fiction. When people want to believe that something is true, they simply believe it. But just because something is believed does not make it truth. Remember, your belief does not depend upon truth, and truth does not depend upon your belief in it. Truth stands independent of belief. A prime example of something that is believed to be a truth is the fallacy of male superiority. There is no truth to this concept, but it is the one basic belief that is embraced by all nations, cultures, and societies of the world as the unquestionable truth.
Your core values are what you basically believe about yourself, other people, and the world around you. The core value foundation from which you molded your individuality was not built by you but was constructed from the value systems held by other people in your childhood environment. How you evaluate yourself, view others, and interpret the world is not the result of your free, fair, and unbiased evaluations, but the result of the conditioning, programming, and imprinting you received as a child from those in your primal environment. Your basic human character was duplicated long ago from the core value template that occupied the minds of those people who were part of your primal childhood environment. You absorbed the core value templates of the people you were observing in your primal environment; their behavior, conversations and comments about you, other people, and themselves. Every human child goes through the process of absorbing core values through observation. I call this process observation imprinting.
The primary human “consciousness” of children is a replicate of core values transferred to them by those people in their primal environment. Beginning in infancy, every child is imprinted with primary core values. The primary core values you absorb during childhood, mold your basic identity, form your basic personality, and define your basic moral, religious, social, and personal attitudes. Core values are the moral codes, attitudes, and beliefs that dictate our social responses and set the parameters for what we consider to be the only acceptable behavior patterns that should be displayed between men and women within a particular culture. All core value systems are founded upon fallacies, myths, superstitions, fantasies, legends, and outright lies that thousands of generations have simply accepted and passed down as “truths.” Limited core values are kept alive through customs, traditions, folklore, and various other cultural practices, including cultural brainwashing.
Your core values determine how you specifically think and feel about yourself as a man or a woman, and how you think and feel about men and women in general. Core values establish your attitudes and expectations about how men and women are supposed to behave while interacting with each other in any particular culture. Core values set your standard for what you consider to be normal and acceptable thoughts, feelings, words, and acts, and rational human behavior. Core values vary greatly among nations, societies, cultures, religions, races, and so on, and are the foundation upon which all human “belief” systems stand. Core values cannot be evaluated as right, wrong, good, or bad. However, they can be evaluated as negative, positive, or hostile to cohesive human interaction if they do not tolerate people of different beliefs. Core values can be evaluated as totally hostile if people living by them believe they must physically force others to live by their “truths.” Totally hostile and destructive core value systems are graphically displayed in the murderous behavior of terrorists who maintain a state of holy war against all people of different beliefs, and between different factions of a single religion. But on the whole, most core values are of the negative nature in that they are designed to maintain social and cultural segregation, not to destroy others. The most destructive core value common to our species is that of male superiority!
Few of us question the absolute truth of our core values. It is what we were raised to believe and how we were taught to live, and we unquestionably accept most of it as correct. Imprinting beliefs into the minds of young children as truth is tantamount to placing a video recording before their eyes and telling them, “This is life.” Most of the words and acts of the adults you observed in your childhood did not originate from their own minds but rather was absorbed through the observation of the core value behaviors demonstrated by those adults in their particular primal childhood environment. Humans are stuck in an endless loop of core value transfer through generational observation imprinting.
Everyone is born into their primal infant environment, occupied by people behaving according to an established, particular set of primary core values. We absorb these core values as we listen to people’s voices, observe their behavior, and make physical contact with them. As children, our young minds are saturated with the core values illustrated by the people around us, and we naturally accept these as our universal truths. We tend to construct our own world around these core value beliefs and seek to fill that world with those who share the same values. There is very little consideration given to the possibility that we should ever change. People rarely experience anything truly original because their entire being is filtered through what they already know to be “true.” They are unaware that they are spending their time on earth in a repetitious and duplicated existence. The initial environment from which you absorbed your primary core values was not chosen by you out of freewill. You entered that environment as a helpless infant, and your parents, and/or others in your immediate environment, were the ones who transferred the template of their core values to you. They formed you into the basic person you are today. The foundation of their particular beliefs, attitudes, prejudices, religious orientation, and social awareness saturated your consciousness from birth, and whether you are aware of it or not, like it or not, or believe it or not, your internal human attitudes are either their virtual copy or the rejection of it. Whether you “accept or reject” the core values to which you were exposed, they still determine your basic attitudes and behavior. You are dependent upon your primary core values in accepting or rejecting them.
As we grow from infants into children, we discover that the world actually encompasses much more than our immediate environment. We begin to have contact with other people who are strange and different and do not believe exactly as we do. But by this time, we are strong in our beliefs, firmly imprinted and entrenched in the core values of our primary environment, proudly exhibiting and standing by those values as our very own. As we grow beyond that environment and encounter even more people of different cultures and beliefs, we naturally assume these people believe and behave as they do because they were taught the wrong things about life. Many of us, as children, got involved in arguments with other children, defending our beliefs and ridiculing theirs. By the time most people move into adolescence, they are a solid fortress of their particular core values, and vigorously defend them as truths, even to the point of violence.
When we reach young adulthood, we are suddenly told that we are now creatures of freewill! We are “grown up” and possess the right to make independent decisions about our lives. We are supposed to see ourselves as individuals, with our own unique personality. But this is simply a fantasy that humans choose to believe. Most people remain shackled to the core values of their childhood throughout life and will, in turn, automatically transfer them to their own children. Reaching adulthood is not some magical moment when we suddenly and physically morph into a unique, independent, and wise person. As adults, we simply occupy a bigger body, and the only magical change is that we are now legally responsible for it. But inside every big adult body, there still lives that little body of the childhood self, desperately clinging to the security of the core values it has always known as “truth.” The remainder of our adulthood is spent sustaining or rejecting the prejudices, superstitions, moral structure, male/female behavior patterns, and social attitudes we were brought up with.
The transfer of core values is a primary and necessary practice in all cultures of the world and is both essential and tragically detrimental to the growth and well-being of human consciousness. Regardless of the content of the core values we absorbed as children, they were crucial to our foundation of attaining a basic, human identity and critical to our childhood survival in our primal environment; essential and absolutely necessary to guiding us through our youth, defining our early character, and giving us a “relative point of truth” in life. Absorbing and reflecting core values from those people in our young environment, allowed us to feel secure and accepted, and gave us a primary sense of belonging. Most of the elements of core value transfer are cultural; allowing the child to understand and successfully interact with those in its immediate environment who share the same values, instilling a sense of familiarity with the environment in which it is adapting. This results in successful childhood growth and offers a vital sense of stability.
As children grow, they have little difficulty letting go of most of their childhood fantasies. Tossed to the wayside go the tooth fairy, the Easter bunny, Santa Claus and so on, because as children grow they are told the truth about these baseless beliefs that comprise the childhood fantasy world. Children can also see that the adults around them don’t really believe in these things. They are just stories made up to assuage children and are meant solely to occupy the childhood mind. Conversely, the baseless fantasies and myths that made up the core values of the people in our primary environment were deeply reinforced as truths by those we trusted. Our caregivers remained serious about the validity of their core values. We are strongly encouraged to maintain those values for our entire lives and unfailingly defend them, especially the negative images of male superiority and female inferiority.
But the core values we relied upon during youth were not meant to direct us once we reached adulthood. Their sole purpose was to get us through childhood; a time when we were incapable of possessing the maturity and knowledge necessary to evaluate a belief system. As we mature, our childhood core values are meant to be questioned, and perhaps discarded just as we have questioned and discarded most other childhood fantasies and fairy tales. It is not that you must automatically disavow your core values, but you must subject them to the kind of objective scrutiny and debate that will allow you to evaluate whether some of the things you believe might in fact be outright falsehoods in the light of your adult experiences and observations. If you do not do this, you will never have a chance of superseding the limited parameters of your childhood mind. It is difficult and perhaps frightening to question our core values. They are central to our identity and we are familiar and comfortable with them; even if they are discriminatory, because as a child you had no idea what discrimination and bigotry were. Core values are the foundation of our teachings, given to us by the people we trusted and loved during childhood, and we have a natural inclination to defend them. We don’t want to consider that the primal Gods of our childhood could possibly have been wrong about what they taught us.
We faithfully go about our daily lives unaware that we are consciousness clones of the people in our childhood environment that transferred their core values to us. Likewise, the core values they transferred to us are the very ones that were transferred to them by the people in their childhood environment, and so on and so on! The tragic limitation of core value transfer is that it maintains and supports segregation of society and cultures, stifles individuality, inhibits freedom of thought, and stunts the growth of human consciousness. Core values have no relationship to truth. They are based upon subjective myths, fantasies, superstitions, fables, fears, and outright lies that saturated the minds of our ancient ancestors who put them forth as a primitive attempt to explain the unexplainable. Core values are simply meant to serve as a cocoon of consciousness; a temporary state that must be left behind if we are to reach other levels. If we do not leave our childhood cocoon of consciousness, we close off any opportunity of expanding our minds beyond its limited confines.
We are creatures of habit and repetition, stuffed full of other people’s ideas while fantasizing we are unique. We think our individual character is being displayed when we rebel and find satisfaction in things that our parents don’t like. When making decisions about the things we prefer in life, such as sports, clothes, cars, food, etc. we think we have exercised free will. However, choosing between “things” in your environment is simply a reaction to external stimuli, not an exercise of free will. Things with which you choose to surround yourself are what you have, not what you are. You are the sum total of the core values you absorbed long before you even left childhood. If we do not question the validity of our core values, we remain in a childhood state of consciousness our entire lives. We must come to the realization that we are all equal human beings, people of the same species, and if we do not join together as one human race and discard the lies of lesser identities that were instilled into us as core values, we will certainly see our demise.